Are Struggle and setback really necessary for us to get better and reach newer and higher landmarks? Is there really a way for us to get past these struggles? Do they really make us who we are? And does it affect our way of thinking at all?
“Once all struggle is grasped, miracles are possible.” — Mao Zedong
LIFE LESSONS THAT CHANGE OUR COURSE OF ACTION:
Ever since we were kids, we would often hear our parents, teachers and practically all the adults around us, talk about how life is filled with struggles and how we have to overcome them in order to reach our desired goals. At that time, it felt like another boring lecture that we had to sit through and forget as soon as we were out of their vicinity. But little did we know that when we actually come face to face with these struggles and find ourselves with little to no means of a solution or a way out, these life lessons that we once abhorred would be our Hail Mary.
Ask anyone you know, no matter what social or economic strata they belong to, every single one of them had to face their own version of struggle at least at one point of their life. There’s a very famous saying by Napoleon Hill that tells us how the struggle is the key to our success, and those who struggle and work tirelessly, achieve the impossible. He says that struggle can be seen as a training medium that prepares us to carry on further and unravel the way to success. So, it won’t be wrong to say that once we stop struggling, our ability to get better and take up new challenges goes down.
IS IT PRACTICALLY POSSIBLE?
Though all of this sounds good in theory, it’s the practical aspect of actually getting past these struggles that leave us feeling lost and defeated. These are the moments when our own mind becomes our enemy and more often than not is filled with thoughts that make it impossible for us to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Hope isn’t easy to come by in these moments and we often cling to negativity as our only resource, which ends up being the stepping stone to the downward-spiral we get trapped into, causing the situation to get progressively worse and our return from it, exponentially difficult.
But the question we all face at such instances is whether there is a way out of this situation or not? Whether we should accept what has come our way and kill our expectations and potential? Whether we admit defeat and give up or do we dare to fight back?
BEACON OF HOPE:
Yes, there is a way out. There’s always a way out.
There is always some or the other way to make it work, to learn from it and move on. No matter how bleak we think our situation is, there is always some source of support, some person or some alternative that helps us fight these battles and make it out stronger than ever. There is always a shoulder to cry on, always an ear to vent and always a cue to set us back on track. Be it our career, relationship, education or social image, we always get the opportunity to make it better again.
WE’RE ONLY HUMAN AFTER ALL:
All of this makes it very necessary for us to know and understand that it’s okay to rely on someone else for help, to let them tell us that the sun will shine again and things will be at least a tiny bit better. It’s okay for us to break and fall apart, with a promise to rise back again. And it is more than okay to lose faith for a while, to accept our loss and the pain that comes along with it, and eventually learning to use that pain as the fuel to drive us harder towards our goal.
So yes, the struggles we go through, do define our strength, they show us that we are resilient enough to withstand the pain and failures. They show us how our way of thinking can affect the outcome of the scenario and how by just acknowledging that we are not alone in this turmoil, we can draw a sense of strength and comfort from it. We all are riding the same boat; we all have problems and situations that daunt and intimidate us and by facing them head-on, we have a shot at making it out alright.